Writing is like being able to put life into a snow globe. It takes the things that are too big and scary and reduces them into a form that I can put away when I want and look at from a distance. It also takes all that’s good in life and captures it into something I can take out when I want and look at close up and keep forever. It makes the bad things into something I can hold…and the good things into something I can hold onto. Both help so much that I need that little souvenir of life.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Senior Sex(less) and the City : #20  The Other Side : Single Women!

Witchy Woman
I first talked to her because she couldn’t really be as scary as she looks, right ? Silly me! I can’t say a word about this one because I am scared of her. In fact, I suspect she is lurking somewhere, shaking chicken blood on mysterious little symbols. Shh…I don’t want one of them to be my name!

I used a short one because I have a favor to ask. I can’t tell you how flattered I am that some of you seem to think I should compile my Sex(less) in the City segments into…something. My question is, what do you think that “something” should be? It’s way too big for an essay. A chapbook? Chapter or section of a larger book—possibly a divorce guide for older women?

Or should I try to come up with more on the single women I’ve met and make it for all divorced people? Or should it somehow not be about divorce at all?

Thank you so, so much in advance. Needless to say, if this somehow makes it into print, this is my "Acknowledgements" page in the making!

Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light. ~Albert Schweitzer


  1. Thank God! You're finally seeing the light. I saw that post title and thought, 'I'm gonna have to hit Tammy over the head AGAIN!' but no, you're finally getting some sense...

    One of the blogs I follow, Pearl, has done a chapbook. I am sure if you contact her, she could give you the low-down.

    What about some of the smarter women's magazines?

    What about Lou at High Hill Press? There are so many of us that are either single or glad we are NOT single (not that we're married to Viggo Mortensen, but the alternative--being single and dealing with some of the "lovelies" you encounter...yuck!). I think there'd be a good market for it. You could follow "Menopause the Musical" around and hawk your wares (just kidding, but if you've never seen it, catch it. It's hilarious!)

  2. No matter what form it takes, I would gear it toward the single aspect. Because everybody has been single at some point, but not everybody has been divorced.

  3. I think to keep it funny it should be small, so a chap book would fit the bill. However, if you want to tackle issues of divorce and add your funny takes in between...hmm...why not just start writing and see where it takes you?

  4. Ahem, at the risk of sounding sexist, men are not as selective, so if you write about the woman with the wart and chicken blood, they'd say, "Yeah, so what?!" So, gear it towards women, because all of us sisters have at one time been single, and most of us have had to kiss a lot of toads (and never found prince charming). Kissed a Lot of Toads could be the title of your BOOK.

  5. Linda, you read my mind! I just looked up that very title on Amazon.com this morning. There are quite a few similar ones out there already, but maybe I can come up with something along those lines.

    Thanks so much to all of you for your input!!! Your logical and insightful comments have helped give me some much-needed direction!

  6. Which big hammer finally made the dent?! :) Personally, I think it would make a perfect survival guide book. You know one of those little pocket size things that reminds us "Oh he is on page 45, what are the consequences?"

    Whatever you do KEEP ME INFORMED, I want a copy!!! :D
    Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

  7. Good for you. I'm sure you will come up with something. There's some kind of book out there that's about how not to marry the wrong guy, so it could go along those lines, but like Jules said, a perfect survival guide book. Maybe once you start compiling everything, something will come to you.

  8. Perhaps you could expand each one you've written into a chapter, interspersed with other chapters on observations/inspirations about the single life. Sounds like a terrific project!


  9. LOL, Lynn--The irony is that I could write a book on how to marry the wrong guy for sure! Thanks so much to all of you again. You've been so helpful!!


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