Writing is like being able to put life into a snow globe. It takes the things that are too big and scary and reduces them into a form that I can put away when I want and look at from a distance. It also takes all that’s good in life and captures it into something I can take out when I want and look at close up and keep forever. It makes the bad things into something I can hold…and the good things into something I can hold onto. Both help so much that I need that little souvenir of life.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Love Song: the Next Stanza

I was so deeply touched by what you all said about the Love of My Life!! Some of you thought I should go try to get back in touch with him. He’s married, and obviously to someone with a heck of a lot more sense than I have.

If he ever finds himself single, he’ll contact me. Or, in the words of Princess Buttercup, “My Wesley will come for me.” But I won’t hold my breath waiting for that to happen. And frankly, I’m still plenty happy if it doesn’t.

The day after Valentine’s Day I picked up the book I’m reading, Eat Pray Love. Today’s quote is what I really, truly did read. I just can’t add a thing, except that I was so uplifted by all of your good, warm wishes for my true love and happiness. May your kindness come back to you a hundredfold.

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with your soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. ~Richard from Texas, as quoted by Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat Pray Love


  1. You are right of course. I think the comments posted assumed that this man from your past was available. None of us would ever try and tempt you to be a boyfriend stealer!

    I just finished Eat, Pray, Love, and enjoyed it immensely. It's much better than I imagined it would be, and has therefore become my most recent "recommended reading".

  2. Tammy,
    You are such a an honorable person. You will forever hold a space in your heart for this special man and you will always compare others to him. Few, if any will ever measure up. Don't let the memory of him prevent you from moving forward, though.

  3. Listen, do you have a momory of him at the frat house after the party down in the game room with the lights very dim and some weird funky music playing, and things are getting hot and heavy, and he's on top, and suddenly he says, "I don't think we should do this."? Do you have that memory? No? Good! Because it is a real bummer!!

  4. Memory! I meant memory! I got carried away!!

  5. Ah yes, those dang paradoxes. You know we want only the best for you my dear blogging friend :)

    A splendid definition of soul mate. I have almost bought that book a dozen times. Looks like I need to :)
    Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

  6. Oops, did I forget to mention he's married?! ;)

    Thanks, Linda, but it's not that I'm so honorable...just trying to recover from those who are the opposite. Thinking about my heroes in life helps me.

    Judie, I laughed so hard...then I laughed all over again. At least you didn't say "mamory!" This wasn't Cran Man, was it??!

    Jules, a friend gave me the book for Christmas, and I'm so glad she did. Like Pat, I wouldn't have thought I'd like it so much. I just finished the "Pray" part and am ready to go to India. Anyway, thanks so much! :)

  7. Hmmm...he's married, huh? Well, that puts a wrinkle in our shorts, doesn't it. . .!

  8. Who cares if he's married! He is the yin to your yang, he's a perfect "fit." Call him, set up a meeting place and---how convenient---the place for your reunion is the Jerry Springer show stage...Where the snaggle-toothed and the toothless wonders are scratched and clawed and shrieked over.

    I think it might work...

    (Yes, none of us knew he was married. And yes, it sounds like you're doing just fine in your own life without him.)

  9. Lisa, has anyone ever told you that you have a way with words? ;)

    Sioux, I thought that was a great idea, so I called Jerry. He won't reunite me with my old flame, but he thinks a guy from a show from several years ago called, "I'm My Great-Granddaughter's Baby Daddy" might be up for parole before his 85th birthday...so he is willing to set us up. Will let you know how it goes.

  10. Mamory? Well, I could have said that! I was almost to the end of a great comment when all of a sudden I got a message that MSN had stopped working and had to shut down! Rather than try to create my brilliant and inciteful comment, let me just say that Cran-Man (who was also the justice-of-the-peace who married Carrie and Mr. Big) wrote in my annual when he was a senior and I was a junior in high school that some of it was..."sweet, some of it was tender, but most of it was real friendship." You can't ask for anaything better than that. If you want more, get one of those little Trojan gagets that they are advertising on t.v.

  11. I'm sorry, Judie--that just happened to me yesterday. Very frustrating! Am embarrassed to say that I don't know what those Trojan gadgets are, but your actor friend does sound like a very sweet guy!


Any return "messages" are appreciated!