Writing is like being able to put life into a snow globe. It takes the things that are too big and scary and reduces them into a form that I can put away when I want and look at from a distance. It also takes all that’s good in life and captures it into something I can take out when I want and look at close up and keep forever. It makes the bad things into something I can hold…and the good things into something I can hold onto. Both help so much that I need that little souvenir of life.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Improper Poll: Frozen in Time

Last week Kay said something interesting. She said that in her mind, she is 32 again.

I thought that was an interesting number. A few years ago, when my son read The Picture of Dorian Gray, and vampire books were all the rage, my children and I had a discussion about staying one age forever. My son made the assumption that, if we all had the choice to be frozen at one age for eternity, we would not only automatically snap up the chance, but we would all choose to be 18. He was shocked when I told him I adhere more to the wisdom of the beloved little Tuck Everlasting, and if forced, I wouldn't pick 18. I would choose something older, like around 32. Actually I was in my best shape ever at 37, but I did have a few Ugly Skin Things by then.

In dreams (the literal kind), I am always somewhere between about 25 and 35. How old are you in dreams? What age would you pick to stay forever if you could?

Do not fear death, but rather the unlived life. You don't have to live forever. You just have to live. And she did. ~Natalie Babbitt, Tuck Everlasting


  1. I only remember my dreams once or twice a year. However, I think I'd choose 40. One kiddo grown up and moved out on her own, my youngest 10, and I was content with myself and not too fat and sassy yet.

  2. That's a tough one. I'll have to give that some more thought.

  3. I remember years ago my mother-in-law telling me that she never felt or looked better than when she was 35. My memory has marked that as the perfect age ever since. Unfortunately, it does imply that everything's downhill from there.

    Critter Alley

  4. Hi Tammy ... I really liked my early 40's. I was still trimmed up, had some life experience under my belt, and could tell people no whenever I wanted to.

    Hey, I gave you an award on yesterday's blog post for leaving me such nice comments.

    Kathy M.

  5. Hmm. Great question.
    I must be a late bloomer, but i believe you haven't lived until you've hit 40.

  6. What an interesting question! I always assume I'm whatever my actual age is in my dreams. A few strange dreams things for me are that I smoked in my dreams for about 2 years after I quit. And whenever someone in my family dies, I dream - that night - that I am with them, and all the other people I've lost - standing on the front lawn of my childhood home. Dogs included!

  7. And p.s. I would be this age. right now. 40!


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